Gospel Gazette Online
Volume 17 Number 11 November 2015
Page 7

Priscilla's Page Editor's Note

God’s Way for Us to Cope
with Loss, Sorrow and Grief, #4

Marilyn LaStrape

Becoming stuck or frozen in grief causes emotional peril to recovery and healing. Two questions were asked from Grief Share: Your Journey from Mourning to Joy that must be answered in order to avoid becoming stuck in grief.

  1. Would God take someone away from you that was essential to your life?
  2. Would God lock you in that situation and keep you there?

Two profound statements were made for objective consideration. If God answered all of your questions and you understood fully why your loved ones died, they would still be dead! If you could have them back (i.e., they hadn’t died), you would get them back just the way they were when they died – dying!

In light of this inescapable truth, consider normal grieving vs. unhealthy grieving.

What Is Normal Grieving?

What Is Unhealthy Grieving?

Confronting and Coping
Equals Recovery and Healing

Confront – To tackle, face up to, meet head-on, deal with it
Cope – To manage, handle, survive, get by, muddle through

Keys to Avoiding Becoming
Stuck/Frozen in Grief

Biblical Examples of Reactions and
Responses to Traumatic Personal Losses

In his editorial “Coping with Grief,” Dennis Loyd, Associate Editor of Gospel Advocate, wrote “Whatever the cause of our grief, we have ways to confront it and cope with it. God’s Word becomes our light. Prayer becomes our appeal. Christian fellowship becomes our comfort. Jesus becomes our hope” (3).

Helen M. Young wrote in, When You Lose One You Love, these most provoking thoughts about "Accepting Bereavement: The Healing Process of Grief." She used the metaphor of ocean tides. “Grief is like the ocean tides. It comes in waves. Just when you feel you are doing better, a wave of grief will sweep over you that is overwhelming. You weep as you did in the initial days of grief…The tides of grief go in and out” (8-11). How well this writer can identify with that!

In his book, Everyday Comfort, Randy Becton stated four paths that delay grief (84-85).

God is always as near as we allow Him to be, giving us constant comfort and hope. “The LORD is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth” (Psalm 145:18).

Works Cited

Becton, Randy. Everyday Comfort. Grand Rapids: Baker House, 1993.

Grief-Share: Your Journey from Mourning to Joy. Wake Forest: Church Initiative, 1984.

Loyd, Dennis. “Coping with Grief.” Gospel Advocate. Editorial. October 2013, 3.

Young, Helen M. “When You Lose One You Love.” Accepting Bereavement: The Healing Process of Grief. Nashville: 21st Century Christian, 1999, 8-11.

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