Gospel Gazette Online
Volume 18 Number 2 February 2016
Page 7

Priscilla's Page Editor's Note

God’s Way for Us to Cope
with Loss, Sorrow and Grief, #7

Marilyn LaStrape

The emotional aspects of a child’s death involve all of the normal stages of grief and recovery. Because it is such a difficult loss, families may need professional help as well as support from family and friends. Parents need to talk about the child and their grief. They need to know they are not alone. After the death of a child, it is important to:

On the loss of a child, the following analysis is from Grief Share: “Through a Season of Grief.”

An additional perspective comes from James Tolle in his book, Living without Fear: Fear of Death.

This most painful experience is shared by Rusty Bolton in his book, It Depends on How You Look at It! When Things Are Tough (29-37).

When real difficulties come, well-meaning friends want to help. Sometimes their response is of great help, but sometimes it compounds the hurt. Recently I had to stand by helplessly as my precious 22-year-old son, Danny, died. He was in the intensive care unit for almost a week, lingering between life and death. Many caring friends came by, each one sincerely wanting to help. Some helped, and some didn’t. From that experience, let me share with you what did and what didn’t help.

In the months since his death, we had readjusted to life—life without him. It has been painful and difficult. It’s supposed to be. Life has its painful times. But there has been a normal, healthy grief process, and we are doing very well.

Biblical Parents Who Suffered
the Loss of a Child or Children

King David had six sons born to him in Hebron (2 Samuel 3:1-5). Three of those six died violently.

David fathered an illegitimate child by Bathsheba while she was married to Uriah, the Hittite. The child died as an infant; he lived one week after becoming ill (2 Samuel 12:14-18).

King Jeroboam and his wife lost their son who became sick and died because of the sin of his father (1 Kings 1:1-13).

Job and his wife lost all ten of their children—seven sons and three daughters in one day (Job 1)!

This modern day concluding experience may well serve as a description of the agony of losing a child. Glenn Martin’s article, “This I Have Learned from My Son’s Death,” shared these heart wrenching feelings in Accepting Bereavement – The Healing Process of Grief (33).

I have spoken words of comfort to those who have lost loved ones, but never before have their full meaning and strength been so completely impressed upon me.

Often my arm has encircled the shoulders of a bereaved one; yet, only now do I know the full solace that comes from the protective arm and sympathetic tear.

I have prayed on behalf of those who have experienced the loss of a loved one, but only now do I know fully the true consolation and blessings that come from such petitions.

I have known the love that children of God express to one another, but only now do I know more fully this love.

I have often talked of the power of the Word of God, but now I know that strength and comfort of the Bible in a new and personal encounter.

The love that God has toward His own and the price He paid in giving up His son have never before been so heart-moving to me as they are at this moment.

These lessons I have learned since the death of my son.

Works Cited

Bolton, Rusty. When Things are Tough. It Depends on How You Look At It! Nashville: Christian Communications, 1989.

Dunn, Bill and Kathy Leonard. Grief-Share: Through A Season of Grief. Wake Forest: The Church Initiative, 2004.

Martin, Glenn. “This I Have Learned from My Son’s Death.” Accepting Bereavement: The Healing Process of Grief. Nashville: 21st Century Christian, 1999.

Tolle, James. Fear of Death: Living Without Fear. San Fernando: Tolle Publications, 1977.

When a Loved One Dies: Coping with Grief. San Antonio: The USAA Educational Foundation, 2012.

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